Friends with benefits? Does it work?

Before you even get the thought into your head.....NO I do not intend on watching this film.lol But seeing the trailer for it made me contemplate the whole "friends with benefits" thing. I started to think about the positives, negatives and possible outcomes of a FWB agreement.

For one I've yet to meet a woman who will admit to wanting to be a part of or ever being involved in a FWB relationship. I've actually had women tell me that I had better not be expecting one because it wasn't gonna happen. I know they exist though(shhhh.lol) so that tells me its an unspoken thing. I don't know if women that are involved in them are in denial or they just wanna keep it quiet. I'm guessing its the latter....because I know women don't want the word going around and every dude they meet from that point on only wanting sex.(Its bad enough as it is for women with that)

Whats the best way to keep it strictly physical and keep emotions out of it? Is that even possible? Women connect emotions to sex and men are very territorial so it would be pretty difficult to keep it on  "friends" only terms. I personally think the only way it can work is if both people lack the time and energy for a real full time relationship. Just because you're busy doesn't mean that portion of your life has to be missing. For example if a woman is working and going to school and a man works crazy hours....then it can definitely work.

So if both participants know what it is and its the best thing for both of them....then its definitely doable. But I'm tired of typing....

How big is too big?.....The age old question

I saw this advertisement on a forum not too long ago, for those that don't know this is Lisa Raye's daughter-Kai Morae. I thought to myself...."I'm not really sure if she's 'model material'." Then I played the game that most if not all men play in their minds whenever they see a woman....the "would you" game. It didn't take more than 15 seconds to decide that yes I would....and I would enjoy it.lol

She's a big girl.....but I ain't gonna lie I would take her around town without shame.Which makes me wonder if she were bigger would I feel the same way? Is she the limit? Now before all the thick/plus sized/bigger women get all angry......ask yourself...do you have height requirements? Yup...you probably do so you have no room to talk.lol

So how big is too big? Well for me that's not a black and white numerical answer. It depends on a few different variables. Personality-I know what you're thinking..."You're so full of shit!" but I wish more women would realize that a great personality goes a LONG way and can turn a 5 into a 7. If a woman has a pleasant attitude and is respectful they get major points. Does she have a pretty face? I don't like a woman of any size with an ugly mug....but I've seen some very pretty bigger women....and it made me forget about the weight.lol Last but certainly not least....Her shape. If a woman has curves in all the right places and is proportioned the right way then its all good.

So any women out there that have asked that question but never felt they got a "real" or honest answer...there you go. This is my honest opinion on it. But I'm tired of typing.....Peace.

So much wrong with this minute long clip.....lol

If my girl was built like a brick shit house I wouldn't let her go out like that....so I DEFINITELY wouldn't let her get anywhere near a group of rappers. She knew what she was doing when she put that outfit on. Women know the effect that spandex pants have on men(and the way it makes their asses and thighs look perfect.)
Not only that but her cleavage was out(a personal favorite of mine)....what did she expect?

But the other part of the video is the way these guys act when they see her. You would think they'd never seen a good looking girl before. The only one that kept his composure was French(the light skinned dude if you don't know) he just calmly called her over and posed for the picture. The other guys lost their minds. One dude even went as far as to lick his finger and slide it down her breast(I would've wanted to do that but I wouldn't have acted on it.lol) Its obvious that dude isn't used to being around women(pretty ones at least) because he didn't know how to act. Guys like this ruin it for the rest of us.....How can I approach a woman who has had men act like that in her presence? She'll be too cynical to even listen to what I'm saying.

And her man.....He looks like one of them black talking white dudes and he's with HER?! Whenever I see them type of dudes(wiggers) with bad spanish broads(like the one in this video)it burns my soul.lol Why did he let her approach 10 dudes dressed like that? If I was a rapper and a woman looking like that came up to me I would think she was a groupie(Its just the way I think. Sue me). Then he proceeds to yell at them and they start copping pleas(???) They don't really get loud till he's out camera-shot....

What a cluster-fuck.

But I'm tired of typing.

Womens' dating site profile demands....

This post is going to be a little short but its something that I want to get off my chest. I've been on a few dating sites here and there to see what was out there outside of the club scene. Apparently its high standards and low quality. I've seen profiles that said stuff like...."I want a man that is over 6 feet tall, drives a luxury car, makes six figures, and looks like Will Smith......I know I look like Precious but if you can't accept that then look elsewhere....and I have 5 kids so you have to like children."

Now keep in mind I'm trying to AVOID hoodrats....but they've even infiltrated dating sites. How delusional can someone be to make crazy demands and have NOTHING to offer? Another favorite of mine is when women (of ALL races) make sure to specify...."No black guys" or "No ghetto people". The funniest is when I see thick or big women say this.....my question to them is if you don't date black men then WHO is checking for you? (Yeah I just said that) That seems like a harsh statement to make but ask yourself....what kind of men appreciate thicker women?(Exactly.lol) I don't think some of these women are thinking things through like that.

I've talked to women who told me the flimsiest lie I've ever heard..."I'm single but I live with my EX....we don't have sex its just that we split the rent." Ladies....how stupid do you think men are? If you still have feelings for your EX....stay the fuck away from me or any other good men trying to better themselves.

And I know there will be women who say...."Oh I do the things he says and I still have men hollerin at me." Keep in mind as a woman its not hard to get sex.....but the question is do you have a ring? Can you find a man to "wife" you?


But fuck it I'm tired of typing.


Shout out to Tariq Nasheed
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How Jay-Z and Snoop Dogg stayed relevant...The 48 Laws of Hip Hop power

The rap game is fickle and fair weathered, careers are short lived. In my estimation you have about 3 years to be the hottest rapper before the Hip Hop audience gets tired of you. When people still have an interest in you beyond that you start to reach an almost iconic status. Why do some rappers keep their relevance for many years while some just have their moment and disappear? There are many factors and I'll discuss them with a few examples.

When Snoop Dogg Jumped ship to No Limit records it was a big risk. He was leaving behind platinum territory(although dangerous) and a producer who helped make him a household name. This could've meant the end of his career but he took the chaos and turned it into something positive. His last album on No Limit was titled "Tha Last Meal". It was his way of saying that is was the last time people would eat off his success. As he moved on in his career he gained more and more freedom. After getting a buzz from a freestyle he did with Big Daddy Kane and a single with Original Flavors Jay-Z still couldn't get a deal. Instead of quitting and going back to dealing he started his own label, Roc-A-Fella Records with Dame Dash.

Trends in music change every 3-5 years(Styles, beats, artists, etc.) Jay and Snoop embraced the changes and used them to their advantage. When production start to evolve around 2000(moving away from sampling) Producers Swizz Beatz, The Neptunes, and Timbaland exemplified that evolution. There's a story I heard about Kool G. Rap traveling all the way to Virginia to the Neptunes studio. Legend has it that Pharrel(member of the Neptunes) played him a beat he said would make him hot and would be a big hit. When G. Rap heard the beat he criticized it and went home. In 1998 Queens, NY rapper(and member of the duo CNN) Noreaga released the song "Superthug"(produced by the Neptunes) and it became a breakout hit. He then surpassed it with his song "Nothin"(also produced by the Neptunes) in 2002. Snoop teamed up with The Neptunes and released one of his biggest hits "Beautiful" and then made an even bigger hit "Drop it like its hot" two years later. Jay-Z rhymed over beats from Timbaland, The Neptunes, and Swizz beatz and then spearheaded the sample resurgence with his 2001 album "The Blueprint". Using then unknowns Just Blaze and Kanye West to reintroduce the "vintage" sound.

Basically what I'm saying is that the reason they survived the times is by taking control of their careers and keeping their sound current. Some may call this selling out but I call it smart.

Those are just my thoughts on it but.....I'm tired of typing. Peace

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What I find so interesting about.....Iceberg Slim

Lately I've found myself fascinated by the life, codes and principals of Iceberg Slim. A lot of people(mostly women) are downright repulsed by that. How could I find anything positive or useful in the story of a misogynistic pimp? Lets talk about that word..."Pimp". Its a commonly (mis)used term in the Hip Hop culture and black culture in general. You might turn on the radio and hear a rapper say he's pimpin' or your friend might say "I was at the strip club throwin money straight pimpin". The truth is....the rapper probably isn't and your friend DEFINITELY isn't(he's a trick a man pimps have no respect for). Robert Beck(Iceberg Slim) is the prototypical pimp. He wouldn't have sex with a woman unless she paid him first. This is the complete opposite of the mentality of most men. The average man is powerless against the seductive prowess of women. According to Robert Greene(in his book "Art Of Seduction") seduction is the one aspect of life where women are more powerful than men. Some of the most influential women in history are known for their looks and seduction skills(From Cleopatra to Marilyn Monroe...all the way down to Kim Kardashian). Being able to resist a womans sexual charms in order to adhere to the "pimps code" takes discipline and makes you more powerful than the average man.

There is also a principal "Fair exchange" that changed the way I viewed intimate relationships between a man and a woman.

"She nibbled and sucked hundreds of tingling bruises on every square inch of my body. Fair exchange as the old saw goes is never robbery."-Iceberg Slim

Typically when a man is offered sex by a pretty female he feels blessed(oral sex is sometimes referred to as being "blessed" or getting "blessings") or as though its his lucky day(sex was at one point referred to as "getting lucky") But this proves that the woman is feeling blessed and lucky as well. You're both getting something out of the deal. This is why when a man pays for sex he is called a "trick" because the woman is getting sex and money while he's only getting sex.

Another thing I liked about Iceberg was his thirst for knowledge about "the game". He would ask the older more experienced pimps for advice. (This is rare, there are so many know-it-alls that think they don't need to learn) Iceberg valued knowledge so much that he even took a beating from his mentor when he broke a rule-but to him it was worth it. 

Something else I got from reading his life story is something the pimps refer to as "Cop n Blow"(to gain and lose).

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According to them "Cop n Blow" is what "the game" is all about. What you have in this World means NOTHING...the question is do you have the skills to get it back if you lose it.There were times in the book where Slim would lose everything(his girls, money, and vehicle) and he would become a wanted man in the area he was in and he'd have to move to somewhere unfamiliar. Instead of panicking and being scared he'd move on. I find that people are so afraid to start from scratch. Its because it makes you question yourself-do you have what it takes to rebuild your life? In "the game" the answer is an emphatic "yes".Pimp